“There is nothing to fear but fear itself,” said President Roosevelt. I’ve heard that line often in my life, and I am a believer. It’s possible to feel a lot of fear. Actually, if we really are looking at life through the lens of fear it’s hard to imagine how we get out of bed [...]
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Fear avoidance
Posted May 29th, 2013 by admin. Comment (0).
Life is not a comparative sport
Posted April 8th, 2013 by admin. Comment (0).
At a young age we learn that we are not one with our mothers. Recognizing that we are actually a unique human being must come with some level of heartbreak as we first leave the womb and then the safety of the embrace. This confuses our soul. On some primal level I think we are [...]
Here today, here tomorrow.
Posted March 20th, 2013 by admin. Comment (0).
Should we worry about our legacy? Should we think about how others will judge us after we are gone? Will they value what we have left behind? Will we value it? Let me put it bluntly, once your dead, I don’t think you worry. What is, is. So even if you’re not that thrilled with [...]
The Queen of Denial
Posted March 8th, 2013 by admin. Comment (0).
That’s what they call me at my cancer support group, The Queen of Denial. I think it’s a misnomer. I actually think of myself as The Queen of Acceptance. I think I am accepting of my circumstances. I have no desire to focus on negativity or what I can’t change. And, I don’t think I [...]
A working model.
Posted March 1st, 2013 by admin. Comments (2).
I think my generation got the model wrong. We too often held that the broadest landscape was our Work, and we fit Life into it. The better model is that the biggest box is Life. We get to fit our Work into that along with tons of other meaningful events, activities and people. I’ve heard [...]
Falling into the comfort of mortality.
Posted February 21st, 2013 by admin. Comment (1).
I had a dream that the angel of death was swinging on a trapeze on the ceiling of my bedroom, wearing a red tutu. She was very clear that she had not come for me. I was still needed on the planet, she said. I asked her, “Why is everyone so afraid of you?” “I [...]
The New Normal
Posted February 12th, 2013 by admin. Comment (1).
For some reason I hate the phrase, “The New Normal.” To me it reeks of loss and boundaries. It’s saying that I had a “normal” life and now it’s gone so I’m trying to pretend that I’m happy with the revised edition. And it’s also saying that there is a “normal,” which to me is [...]
My mother’s passing
Posted March 25th, 2010 by admin. Comment (0).
I really never thought my mother would die. She was a mystic who always seemed to have one foot planted in another realm. And for that reason, never really seemed earthbound enough to need to transcend this realm. But she did. And it’s still kind of shocking to my system to think that she is [...]
The pleasure button.
Posted February 19th, 2010 by admin. Comment (0).
I have found the pleasure button and it’s name is the Other. There really is nothing which gives me as much joy, as much deep pleasure, as doing something for someone else. Someone I know. And sometimes, someone I don’t know. And I’m not alone. In the U.S., we give about 2.5.% of our income [...]
Why Me?
Posted January 21st, 2010 by admin. Comment (0).
Sickness, trauma, death, destruction, devastation. They happen. And that sucks. I just don’t think the right question to ask is “why me?” In some ways, these most personal tragedies aren’t really personal. They are part of the cycle of life. Devastating things can happen to anyone. Earthquakes can happen anywhere. We are vulnerable. If [...]